EVERYDAYJESUS is more than a chocolate-box love story! (An update).

What if it is not too late to love? What if finding happiness is more real than ideal? What if love and happiness is for now? What if you are not too old to change? What if you have a clean and fresh slate now to rewrite your story? What if God asks you to make your first ever wish now? What would that be, what would you want?

I would want a perfect smoothie blend of love and happiness and happiness over and over again. Listen, I would let God know how much I believe in finding love, happiness and my utopia before I die. I’ll let Him know too that for me, peace and serenity is not just a promise fulfilled only in a fairy nice chocolate box love story written by my ever fantasizing mind. I know that I am a product of my mind, and that my mind is the product of my experiences good and bad, and of my environment too.

I am the woman I am today because of all that my mind has picked up until today.

In other words, issues ranging from my choice of a pair of slippers, lipstick and beauty regimen to how I respond to a crisis, be it in a relationship or in sickness is within me and not without me. So if I am not happy about the woman I have become today, then I don’t have to change nothing but my mind. I simply have to renew my mind by reconditioning it with the right experience, and with the right environment, that way my mind changes, and if my mind changes, I am changed, and if I am changed, then I’d be happy. If I am not happy about my natural inclinations, my usual responses, my most normal choices, and even the outcomes of them, I know that I need not play the blame game but  spend my time getting the right experience and of course the right environment. And if you ask me what those are I’d say Love is. See, I believe in love. I believe in finding happiness. I believe in the dream of a woman… to be found out by her man.

I had always been in that place where a woman just dreams. I had dreamt severally about this imaginary man who would make me his woman and treat me like his queen. I was far from being perfect but I had my little long list. I needed a strong man and a real man to protect me, someone who would be faithful to me, and an able shoulder to cry on. I wanted my man to be someone who would just listen and comfort me, a man who would be a friend, a big brother I never had and the father I lost early. I needed a man who could and would provide all my needs and still consider my wants, a man who would just love me with or without makeups – I love looking good anyways. And of course I wanted a man who would be a gentleman for me and still not let me push him around. I wanted him handsome. He had to have a good sense of humor and an intelligence quotient that I could never match. My man had to be a very romantic lover whose words and kind gestures would make me tear up. I craved for a man whose gaze would be lovingly unbearable and who I know would enjoy watching me sleep. I wanted a soul mate. I longed for this man to come quickly, notice me as love stories go and take me along with him. Like the woman at the well I went from man to man hoping to find my man. Something seemed to be missing – I was never satisfied. None ever fit me like lock and key. I always left these men unsatisfied – I couldn’t really afford to be unhappy. The gap in my heart needed to be filled. I was that doughnut with a hole, I was thirsty.

At a point I thought I was asking for too much wanting all I wanted but thank God a man filled that void. When I wallowed in the emptiness within me, when my soul wasted away, I found love. I found love when I least expected to. I found love when I didn’t know He had always been there. I felt I had waited for too long not knowing that He was the one who had done all the waiting. He had wooed me on several occasions but I never took note of Him – oh how enduring is the love of my Galilean lover. I heard His lines but I never seemed to get it. “BELIEVE AND RECEIVE” He said, and when I accepted His proposal I came alive. Like the woman at the well, He knew me too well. He knew and saw all that I ever did yet He loved me. My Galilean lover is everything I ever craved in a man. His muscles were toned from carpentry, and His Words sharp enough to chase my accusers. He wrapped me in His love and I fear nothing. He is that gentleman who still never changes His mind.

He is Meekness and Majesty, Manhood and Deity, aka Velvet and Steel. You may argue any case with Him but be sure that He cannot be trapped by logic – He is Philosophy and Logic. Oh He is so romantic, His style of proposal top notch. His life the diamond ring – very costly and guess what He never sleeps, He never slumbers because He loves to watch me sleep. He is that perfect man for the perfect me – at least He said, and that is final! In His love letter, He told me that I am His righteousness and He is my right standing. I don’t have to impress Him – He loves me! Death cannot do us part because we live forever. With my Yeshua, I am never jealous or insecure because He is too intoxicated to dump me – besides He says “I will never leave you or abandon you”.

So for that reason, I am here to share my man. 

“But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name: who were born, not of blood, nor of the will of man, but of God.” -John 1:12-13.

“But whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst. But the water that I shall give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into eternal Life.” -John 4:14.

On the last day, that great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out saying “If anyone thirsts, let him come to Me and drink. “He who believes in Me as the Scriptures has said, out of his heart will flow rivers of living water.’’ -John 7: 37- 38.

 

By Favouromeje, 2016.   

EVERYDAYJESUS’ solitude (an update)!

The more time that I spend with a person, the more I talk like the person, if I agree and love this friend, I almost become like him or her. Friends influence each other. When I gist with my friends, listen to them talk, mix my ideas with theirs (if I admire these friends), I find myself using their words. I have been influenced by my friends in the past and even now. In the process, I picked up words like ‘scraggy’, ‘most def’, ‘no p’ and ‘oh my Gooid’ from a friend. And those phrases and words are still with me even when I am no longer close with this friend. Right now, I find myself sounding like one guy who is beginning to be my favorite guy, lol.   I desire to be like Jesus. I love the Trinity and the most desired thing is that I be like Jesus, to be one with Him. Well that used to be my spiritual life project but right now, my Bible has made me to understand that I am just like Him in my spirit in both size and stature. I am begotten of the Father too by His Spirit, having the same rights, realities, inheritance, authority, rule, dominion as Jesus who is the prototype, aka first born from the dead. So, I am no longer pursuing ‘being like Jesus Project’ because I am like Him in my Spirit. Nevertheless, my mind can get in the way in letting me live out my spiritual realities. So If I spend more time with the Lord (consciously make a routine and habit of studying the Bible for myself and spending some time in praying in the Spirit a.k.a praying in tongues), then I don’t merely stand the chance of being like Jesus but I am going to live out the ‘Spirit of Jesus reality’ in me because I am constantly retreating to let my spirit which is already one with the Spirit to have ascendancy over my weak mind: weak because the physical realm i.e. my environment and senses tries to spoil my mind over time. Whenever I spend more time with people and friends, it could be that I am spending less time with God or let’s say, with myself. The implication would be that I would be more attuned to the sense realm because it is my mind that I have used most of the time to pilot conversations, receiving and giving vibes. I love my friends but if we’re not studying the Bible, praying in the Spirit and Prophesying in solitude or even as friends often, then we might find ourselves doing and saying things like mere men, i.e. non mutants who have active minds and dead spirits. C’mon we are living spirits because we have eternal life so we gats to retreat, (I wish you could see the face I am making right now, lol)!

The Lord begot me to be like Him – Like Jesus. While I am spending some time with Him, I am discovering the beauty of His person. My Jesus is holy, compassionate, passionate, and without sin. My Jesus is bold; He knew who He was while on earth. He is merciful, kind and loving. He is gentle and patient; He puts up with my childishness and mistakes. There is something about Him. His words are gracious; they do not hurt or tear down. They build up. He never gets angry; His temper is checked. He tells people the truth but when they resist the truth, He just lets them be. My Jesus has authority and power. Demons tremble at His presence and He rules over them. He is only harsh to evil spirits and not to human beings. My Jesus enjoys the secret place a lot; He retires to a solitary place to commune with our Father. I could never forget the gentleness of the voice of my Jesus. I could never forget those times He made me shed sweet tears by saying very sweet things to me.  I could never forget the sound of His sweet voice to my heart – that very gentle voice. I remember that day I was starving of His Word yet could not feed, funny right? He spoke to me in what seemed like a trance or sleep (I cannot tell) that I had not eaten and that I should eat – I sure was famished. Unbelief and doubt was having a better part of me that I was too weak to even eat of His bread – Thank God I am feeding and alive and could never be robbed by the devil again. I could never forget that day. He always hears me and listens to me. Some time ago, I was so broke yet I ordered some books by faith telling the seller that my father was behind my order and would send the money to me. The books arrived but the money hadn’t come. I was getting uneasy but I still believed God for a miracle. No money came. I told Him to prove to me that I was really His child who was confidently depending on Him and that I was giving Him some days to do that or I would fend for myself. He ignored both I and my threat. I went to church one of those days after the time that I gave Him elapsed and I wept the whole time. While coming home I told Him amidst tears that I was very sad and hurt and that He had refused to wipe my tears. I told Him to wipe my tears and He heard me. Instantly the tears dried up and I could not cry again even when I wanted to. I could go on and on to recount how he takes note of me. I wonder how He listens to everybody’s prayers all at the same time. He is inexhaustible.

My Jesus is mysterious, He always spoke in parables. The kingdom of God was His message. He is love personified; love sent Him to the cross. You could always see wisdom, authority and charisma in His teachings.

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what that good and perfect will of God is. – Romans 12: 2(NKJV).

For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the firstborn among many brethren. – Romans 8: 29(NKJV).

You were taught,  with regard to your former ways of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made  new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. – Ephesians 4: 22-24.       (NIV).

 

By Favouromeje, 2016.

EVERYDAYJESUS wants me to mean it! (An update).

One morning last June, during my final year at the University, I and my rummies got ready to leave for lectures; we all had a long day ahead. We wanted to look the best that we could-as snazzy as possible, you know most girls like to look good.  Lipsticks were busy, eyeliners and mascaras popped eyes, mirrors had many things to say. Foundations, shadows, fragrances, talcum, rouges, and all, were taking turns to make their contributions. And of course wardrobes were either functioning or malfunctioning as all the dresses pleaded for a chance to get picked for the day’s outing. Soon the activities were dying down because we started leaving the room for lectures one after the other.  I and one of my ‘fave’ rummies were left and she had been talking with the mirror over and over again – I did not listen to their conversation anyways.  It was almost immediately that I heard her say:  ‘Favour, tell me that I look nice’.  Without thinking, I replied ‘you look nice’.  Then came the accusation ‘you never meant to say that, you just told me that I looked nice because I asked you to’.  Without thinking again, I told her that I did as she told me to, and that I did not expect her to complain.  I was shocked when she said ‘I AM HURT’.  I was taken aback. I learned a lesson.

Jesus is a lot like us, or like her. He is totally man yet totally God. He hurts when we do things simply because we think the Bible demands them from us rather than because we were dying to do them.  Pour exemplum, if I read my Bible and pray just because it is a Christian rule or duty, then Jesus would hurt because I don’t really enjoy the ‘us’ time. I was merely doing what was necessary.  On the other hand, if I take out good time to study the Bible for myself and talk with Him because I really love to learn from Him and because in fact, I just can’t get enough of Him, then do I believe that He like any man, would feel loved and wanted. Jesus is just too gentle to demand things like studying the bible, and praying from us. Doing those things does not make Him love us more but in doing them we avail ourselves the opportunity of seeing things the way He sees them. Jesus wants us to do things when we are ready to, and because we really love to- that is love! I wouldn’t be happy if my spouse struggles to spend some time with me simply because ‘they’ say he has to. I would just feel like I am a really boring person to be with. Jesus is not too far from being like me – he is still the Son of Man. Every day, Jesus wants me to mean it!

“If you love me, you will obey what I command.”

John 14: 15 (NIV) 

 

By Favouromeje, 2016.   

EVERYDAYJESUS’ ‘thinking out loud’ (an excerpt from ‘Schisms’)!

I am favouromeje and I really like romance… a lot! I like having a generous dip in the red sea of passion, especially when it’s rumbling blood and thunder, and of course preferably with the most qualified young blood there is. In fact if I were not Spirit-tamed, then gents of the like of Leonardo DiCaprio would’ve stood great chances with me. Once upon a time, I was a fifteen year old church kid, my tracts in hand, I had my Bible in my head, and of course my thirty year old crush in my heart.

Well, I grew up – or let’s say I am a little grown now.  Now, I am a Jesus chick, His freak if you care, His love and Word in my heart, His Gospel in my mouth, in my fingers too if you’ve noticed, and of course a crush from time to time – sometimes, more than one crush at a time. El-oh-el! Last semester, I had this major mutual crush, who almost swept me off my feet before I decided to tell my Jesus about it – thank God I was able to! I decided to honestly tell Jesus just what was going on in my mind – not like he hadn’t been always aware. Then, I made up my mind to accept the wind of passion blowing on me, without struggling with or fighting it. I know that Jesus loves me anyhow and anyways! So guess what, I decided to allow myself to relax and enjoy the feeling while it lasted. Yes “enjoy it”, I said, no word mincing! Jesus understood the situation, so why should I fear? He made me passion-electric-charged as a single, and he was in control so why couldn’t I just trust him with my hormones? Well I knew better than to not let myself bask in the Love of Christ, He who could put the charged Favour safe and tamed. I know that I can really get the hots for an attractive ‘spec’, but I also know that it is mine to choose what to do with the heat. Jesus taught me by Brother Paul that I am so DEAD as far as fornication or the like was concerned. It wasn’t any motivational dewy-eyed statement, but my most basic reality in Christ. It is a knowledge thing! It doesn’t matter to me if I enjoy the gaze of my preferred male that heats me up, or even the attention he gives me because I know that I can simply afford to trust my Jesus to keep me from burning up and out. Like every fire, my ‘unnecessary’ passions burned out, and me, always survived unscathed! (Winks).

Now look what I have learned:

 Love is a substance and not a feeling.

 Love is not an emotion unless you prefer to slam an insult on Love’s face.

 Love is God and Love is God’s.

 Love cannot be won; Love is a gift given daily.

 Love is not the reward given to a woman for being desirable in form, neither is it that given to a man for possessing a sturdy build, witty wit, and a ‘Goldy’ purse.

 Love lays down and never demands a thing.

 Hot, passionate and sizzling romance ≠ Love!

 Love can be expressed within the context of passion and romance, as well as within the environment of family and friendship.

 Tis Love when I decide to help a young man most especially a mutant male to slow down and not fan the fire of a mutual or non-mutual desire although I surely do enjoy watching it sizzling.

 And no matter how close I get to the brink of a most heated romantic situation, I can confidently tell you that my Jesus had always been my ‘Omnipotent-Save-the-Day’!

 Love is a product of a decision and not the result of some hormonal coercion.

 We don’t wait for Love to find us; if you have the Genetic Code, please give Love!

 That a guy seems to be the only one at the time who could make my heart miss a beat, doesn’t mean that I would be willing to put myself in the line for him.

 And that a young man is having either divulged or disguised passions for me, a.k.a fooling around with me, does not mean that he necessarily loves me.

 It is very possible to have strong feelings for some guy without deciding to have a tiny pinch of Love for him – I have been there.

 It is also possible to have an ocean of Love for a guy without having any drop of feelings attached to it – also been there.

 Love is the willing decision to commit oneself to eating another’s shit whether you feel like it or not.

 Love is Love and has no types, forget the lying schemes of the devil floating in books and movies – I can tell ya

 Love may be expressed in different contexts and environments such as family, romance etc.

 Love is for both opposite and like charged individuals, if you know what I mean

 Love is the Life!

 It is only men and women who are born of the Spirit of the Love God, who are capable of the Love Life!

Live it, if you are able!

 

By Favouromeje 2016.

EVERYDAYJESUS resolves my trust issues (an update)!

Sometimes when we are just too frugal and “economical”, we often think that we are being wise spenders or may be reserving something for the rainy day. The real truth here may be that we are not seeing Jesus every day. Pour exemplum, if I have just one sachet of tomato paste and four cups of rice, and I know that in every way, two cups of rice is just enough for the day for me, and that one sachet of tomato paste is just sufficient to give me a decent pot of jollof rice for dinner, if I decide to divide that one sachet of tomato paste into two equal halves because I want to reserve a half for the remaining two cups for a “tomorrow”, such that my pot of rice of today becomes what my mother calls ‘win the war’ ( food for survival), then I have simply denied my trust in Jesus as my constant supply. When Jesus taught His disciples to pray, He encouraged them to ask for their daily bread. He was simply trying to teach us to trust God, Abba Daddy for a one-day-at-a-time life. In the Old Testament, God was called Jehovah Jireh because on the mountain He provided. This is to say that Jehovah Jireh knows how to provide just when we need it. Today, He has not changed His nature but He just changed the relationship with us that makes Him provide. Yesterday, the children of Israel found it difficult to learn that character of God, which their father Abraham learned. They always saved some Manna as a reserve for the next day against Jehovah Jireh’s instructions. They had trust issues and that was very repulsive to Him. Today, He has become Abba Father, our Daddy. Jesus taught that if corrupt human daddies do well at giving, then our Father should do best. He supplies our needs according to His riches in glory through Christ Jesus. In fact Jesus taught that food, clothes and the like should not be part of what we should ask for because Daddy knows that we need them, we should bother about seeking His kingdom and His righteousness because all the other survival necessities would follow. Today, Jesus is asking us to trust God-ours and His Father, for supply and abundance every day. Nevertheless, Jesus does not encourage waste or gluttony (remember the gathering after feeding the 5000 to their full). He wants us to enjoy every day, if we have a natural reserve, we may keep them naturally for the next day, or we could share if
necessary, but we must not pass ourselves through a miserly miserable life in the name of being wise- even if that is wisdom, then it must be the wisdom of the world. Every day Jesus provides just as we need it!

By Favouromeje, 2016.

EVERYDAYJESUS is with moi! (An update)

I think I am a really busy person, now and especially during my last lap at the University. ‘Busy’ with necessary business: I was a final year student in her last semester so that spelt STUDY and PROJECT! I was also a start-up entrepreneur; you may not find it necessary but for me, purpose and life needed funding – if you understand what I mean. I was and I am still committed to a local church because that is part of my responsibilities. I was and I am also human being therefore I needed to eat, sleep, launder for ‘me’ and also ensure that I don’t become an “I”(you know, it is easier for me to lose two pounds than it is for me to gain a pound, literally speaking). I was and am still also a girl who loves looking good so I needed some time for that every day. And oh, I had lectures to attend, and guess what, the lecturers swept the official time table under the carpet. Also I had found myself, so I have to always speak up – I WRITE! And ultimately, I am a Christian therefore my spirit needs Word grooming every day! That is what I survive on.

I had and I still have just 24 hours just like everyone else, therefore I had to plan every day, the day before and of course updating my to-do list every night. I made plans everyday but sometimes, some things wouldn’t just go as planned. The pressures of my great everyday busyness formed my every day cares. My project was really slow because my research samples were a bit funny – human breast milk! Getting them was really not a joke. I was not even done with the first chapter by the time I first wrote this whereas submission was for July. I had to complete and defend my project come mid-July- It was June 1, already. I also had to contribute my daily quota to the Kingdom by writing and living. Oh how I planned and worked at my daily schedule diligently but how things chose to move pretty slowly, my project for one. In fact that day, I had to re-adjust a letter I wrote to a hospital just after being delayed for three days by my department to get it endorsed. I mean I didn’t have all that time! Well, somehow I discovered that I was unruffled and unstressed by my many stresses. I was and am still rested. I had learned to rest on the Truth that He is IMMANUEL to me, the God that is ever with me. I also stayed and I still do stay on the truth that I have JESUS, the saving God. He didn’t just save my soul, He saves
my day every day. In fact His job description was and is still saving me! He is still saving situations for me daily. I was and I am still comforted by the truth that I am in His care. He loves me more than I love myself therefore He understood and He still understands the urgency of my needs and cares so much more than I think I do. I love the truth that He will never, ever leave me or abandon me in any mess. I don’t like to mess up but even if things go messy, He shows me mercy. Cleaning up my mess is not my business but His. I am His business. Yahweh has infinite methods of doing the same thing, this is what I like to call ‘OMNIPOTENT- SAVE- THE -DAY’. God never depends on our action or inaction to work things out, He depends on my trust for DADDY! He is Abba father, and daddy never lacks a plan so I think I am safe!

Cast all your anxieties upon the lord for He cares for you – 1 Peter 5: 7(NIV)

…and surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” – Matthew 28:20b (NIV)

By Favouromeje, 2016.

EVERYDAYJESUS’ Worship 3 (an update)!

Now it happened as they went that He entered a certain village; and a certain woman named Martha welcomed Him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, who also sat at Jesus’ feet and heard His word. But Martha was distracted by much serving, and she approached Him and said, “Lord do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore tell her to help me.” And Jesus answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. “But one thing is needed and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken from her.”

Luke 10: 38-42(NKJV).

Home making is both a duty and a major hobby for me as a woman but then on the other hand lies a higher duty and calling which is worship. Sometimes while going about my woman functions diligently; it could be very easy to forget the place of worship – the better part. Worship for me, is a God consciousness in the very most mundane thing. It is to me like not just shuffling back and forth the Mary-Martha woman life, but running the ‘Mary and Martha Me’ skillfully at the very same time. The Truth is that Martha isn’t the wrong one, in fact nobody is. She didn’t know something I know now, LOL. Woman balance is worshiping in my most very common activities. If I realized that the Lord is right there with me, then I would involve Him in my home making, this to me is pure worship! Home making like every other thing is fun doing but when done with the consciousness that the Lord is right there with me, it becomes even rejuvenating and refreshing – worship actually is refreshing! If you ask me, I would tell you that as a woman, God is glorified when I do the home thoroughly because that is my God-given role being attended to very well, but then, God is even more glorified when I let Him help me with my chores because I let Him teach me by His Holy Spirit the best ways to do every single thing. Do you know that Abba Daddy could give one a snazzy elegant DIY on almost anything including a perfect haute cuisine, cordon bleu ‘how to make a good sauce for potatoes’? Well He has given me tones of ‘em, no kidding!

By Favouromeje, 2016

EVERYDAYJESUS’ Worship 2 (an update)!

Once upon a time, I could talk a plenty. The thing is that I had this phobia for awkward silence, so I always filled in the gap. Yes, I did fill in the silent spaces with just anything, most times with just the most awkward things for the most awkward silence- I know I am talking almost gibberish but you can manage , lol! Other times I just liked to talk because I enjoyed it a lot, hearing myself talk, talk, talk again, get tired and feel guilty later too, lol. You know, one of the deepest forms of worship is fighting for approval, and whosoever’s approval that I seek the most is who I love the most, and whosoever that I love the most is who I worship. The funny thing about seeking man’s applauds is that you don’t worship the man whose applause you sought but you get the applause or want the applause while singing your own praise, giving glory, worship, and honor to your own very self. Most of the times when I talk too much, listening to nobody and nothing else but my own voice, ceasing every piece of a conversation, talking and suggesting myself hoping to get admiration, I merely worship myself. And that very approval of man I never end up getting. Most of the time I am left empty, feeling exhausted for trying so hard and of course getting little because self-worship brings about more worship of self. The emptiness felt is the void created by the sin of idolatry- All glory must go to God. Worship is talking less of self, and more of God. Worship is listening carefully to the words of men just to hear the voice of God lingering and caressing my ears, learning more, talking more again of God at every opportunity and whenever myself is mentioned, it is just to confess allegiance to the King of Kings. That is worship. But why do I keep learning these truths and at every chance I talk with man I see self-worship again? The natural man wants to be like God, I guess. The only time that man can ever and even give me applause is when I have forgotten how to seek their applause because I am busy caring about the validation of Yahweh. This is the time that I really forget about myself and every other man. I can never hear God’s voice in my conversations when I am not busy listening and listening and listening again. When I am busy talking and talking and talking again, I will not know and enjoy the comfort of hearing God’s sweet voice even from the very worst man.
Listening is one way to enjoy the finer things of life. Listeners look more beautiful than talkers- they are not under stress. Listen, and test, and search, and enjoy and listen again. Forget to speak, that is worship and worship is refreshing. “But the hour is coming and now is when the true worshippers will worship the father in spirit and truth; for the Father is seeking such to worship Him. “ God is Spirit and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.”- John 4:23-24 (NKJV). Therefore, I urge you, brothers in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God –this is your spiritual act of worship.
–Romans 12:1 (NIV)

So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath. -James 1:19(NKJV).

By Favour Omeje, 2016